Rules

Who creates life's rules? Not like the rules in a classroom, or the rules of a club...I'm talking about the ones that aren't written. Like "A girl should never call a boy" or "You should wait this long before introducing a new beau to the family."

I think those rules are bullshit. Sorry Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, but you suck. Why do we, woman AND men, follow stupid rules like that? As a teacher, I can't have this 'one size fits all' mentality. So why should it apply to dating? I feel like I've spent my whole life following a bunch of dumb rules...and the moment I break them I find what I'm looking for.

Of course there's a contradictory thought to this...when you've had such bad luck in the past, how do you know what the right thing to do is? I've found myself asking all these silly questions as if I've never heard the word relationship before. I think a lot about the episode of Sex and the City when Carrie starts spending nights at a time at Big's and she accidentally farts in front of him. It then turns into her having the ability to do #2 at his place to leaving some of her things there.

When are those kinds of things okay to do? And what about the harder things, like 'I thinking I'm falling in love...when is the right time to say it?' or 'How do I tell her I can't have kids?' or 'My family is crazy, how do I tell him this?' Not that these are pressing questions on my mind...as far as I know I am able to procreate. :) How and when are the right times to tell a mate things that are hard to say though? I stressed for almost two weeks on how to tell Shutterbug I was divorced. It really didn't mean anything at the time I said it, but it COULD mean something down the road if I didn't. In the end I stressed for nothing, but there is such a fine line with stuff like that. I would have LOVED to see a follow up book, Ellen and Sherrie!!!!!

I guess there aren't rules you can follow for stuff that's hard to say...aside from the ones in your heart. Your heart will tell you the right time to do/ask/tell the things that are either hard or uncomfortable to bring up...evening the farting!!!! :D

And like I said earlier...in the 'one size fits all' society we live in, there comes a point and time where you have to put that aside and treat each situation as its own. Stop using the past as a template and draw a new map in order to get to where you're going.